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Small Groups Mark@2X

Set Clear Expectations

A key to helping people feel comfortable in your group
is to let them know what to expect. Take time to share how the group will flow from week to week. This can include things like explaining the times you will begin and end the group, how discussion or group activities will happen, and how the group will rally as a family to care for and support one another.

Follow the 70/30 Rule

Give the members of your group room to speak up instead of doing all the talking yourself. About 70% of talking should come from members and 30% from the leader.

Keep the Discussion Positive

If conversation takes a negative or destructive turn, guide it back to a healthy place. If someone needs to talk about a sensitive or complex issue, you can follow up with them after the group or call your coach to help you respond well.

Keep the Conversation Relevant to Everyone

Remember, everyone in your group will be at different places in their spiritual journey. Be thoughtful when you talk about spiritual concepts or church terms that might be unfamiliar to new Christians or new church-goers.

Respect Boundaries

Men should minister to men and women should minister to women. A couple may minister to a single person. We want to maintain integrity and purity in our Small Groups. These boundaries will help protect the leaders and group members from entering into an uncomfortable or inappropriate situation.

Facilitating With Excellence

  • Start and end on time.
  • Be a facilitator, not a lecturer— your goal is to encourage personal interaction and self-discovery. Be a good listener.
  • Focus on what scripture says, not your own ideas and opinions.
  • Seek to understand before being understood. Never put down a person’s comments or contributions.
  • Don’t allow one or two people to dominate the discussion.
  • Don’t force anyone to talk, but encourage involvement by callingon reluctant participants by name.
  • Keep the discussion on track. If new issues are raised, suggest that you return to them after the current discussion is completed.
  • Ask good follow-up questions to take the conversation further.
  • Remember, the goal is to build relationships, not complete the curriculum.
  • Be sure to include fun into your semester. Set aside some time to just do something fun as a group.

Deadly Destructors

  • Inconsistent gatherings
  • Not enough members (open chairs) or too many members
  • Not addressing a problem member
  • Not communicating with group members
  • Not caring for group members
  • Omitting one or more of the 5 Essentials (VESPA)
  • Small Groups are not a place for:
    • Business, multi-level marketing
    • Offerings
    • Unsupported materials or speakers
    • Alcohol or tabacco use of any kind