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You + God 

You + Others 

Unmet expectations

You want a guy that’s sweet, a guy that’s tough, a feminist who likes to pay for stuff. The kind of guy that gets along with your friends, without being attracted to any of them. A good boy, a bad boy; a good, bad boy; A half good, half bad, half boy. Loves your brothers, is sensitive but not weak and is a great lover, calls your mother on the weekend. 

You might think this guy only exists in your mind. Guess what: You’re Right! 

— Bo Burnham 

You want a girl that’s nice, a girl that’s not obsessed with her looks, but is insanely hot. The kind of girl that you can show to your folks, loves the movies you like, and always laughs at your jokes.

You might think this girl only exists in your mind, but she’s real...but last week she died.

— Bo Burnham 

✅  Doesn’t need change
✅  Doesn’t want to change me
✅  Looks / Money
✅  And Loves Jesus 

My relationship should make me happy 

If you’re looking for happiness, DO NOT get married 

Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself for us a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. 

Hesed 

• Mercy
• Love
• Kindness
• Steadfast Love 
• Loyalty
• Devotion 

“...The Lord, the Lord, a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness, keeping steadfast love for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin...” 

COVENANT LOVE 

1. Relationship
2. Personal Needs 

When Israel was a child, I loved him, and out of Egypt I called my son. The more they were called, the more they went away; they kept sacrificing to the Baals and burning offerings to idols. 

I led them with cords of kindness, with the bands of love, and I became to them as one who eases the yoke on their jaws, and I bent down to them and fed them. 

My people are bent on turning away from me, and though they call out to the Most High, he shall not raise them up at all. 

How can I give you up, O Ephraim? How can I hand you over, O Israel? How can I make you like Admah? How can I treat you like Zeboiim? My heart recoils within me; my compassion grows warm and tender

CONSUMER LOVE 

1. Personal Needs 
2. Relationship 

Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself for us a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. 

Love from fulfillment, not for fulfillment.

“What if God designed marriage (the season you’re in), to make us holy, more than to make us happy?” 

— Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage 

Make your marriage/singleness the loudest gospel you preach.

New You, New Relationships - Part Two