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You + God 

You + Others 

Who knows your story, your struggle, and your secrets?

In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem.

One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, and David sent someone to find out about her. 

The man said, “She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.” 

Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her...The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, “I am pregnant.” 

So David sent this word to Joab: “Send me Uriah the Hittite.” And Joab sent him to David. 

In the morning David wrote a letter to Joab and sent it with Uriah. In it he wrote, “Put Uriah out in front where the fighting is fiercest. Then withdraw from him so he will be struck down and die.” 

So while Joab had the city under siege, he put Uriah at a place where he knew the strongest defenders were. 

When the men of the city came out and fought against Joab, some of the men in David’s army fell; moreover, Uriah the Hittite died. 

The deception of sin 

The seeds of the worst of us are living in the best of us

“Look in your life. Do you see self-pity, resentment, envy and jealousy, hurt pride, self-centeredness? Don’t you know what those can become if they fall in the right soil, if they get watered properly? Yet you’re tolerating them."

— Timothy Keller 

"Yes, because we don’t believe we’re really capable. They’re little things. We couldn’t do something like this.” 

— Timothy Keller 

“Be killing sin, or it will be killing you.” 

— John Owen 

The Lord sent Nathan to David. When he came to him, he said, “There were two men in a certain town, one rich and the other poor. The rich man had a very large number of sheep and cattle, 

but the poor man had nothing except one little ewe lamb he had bought. He raised it, and it grew up with him and his children. It shared his food, drank from his cup and even slept in his arms. It was like a daughter to him

“Now a traveler came to the rich man, but the rich man refrained from taking one of his own sheep or cattle to prepare a meal for the traveler who had come to him. Instead, he took the ewe lamb that belonged to the poor man and prepared it for the one who had come to him.” 

David burned with anger against the man and said to Nathan, “As surely as the Lord lives, the man who did this must die! He must pay for that lamb four times over, because he did such a thing and had no pity. 

The people who are the most vocal and zealous about sin, are often those who struggle with secret sin themselves.

Then Nathan said to David, “You are the man!” 

The shrewdness of grace 

When there’s any hope at all of persuasion, God goes for conviction and conversion, not condemnation.

For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. 

“It glorifies God for you to tell the truth about sin, but it glorifies God more if the person you’re telling the truth to repents. If you condemn a person in such a way that is so offensive it makes it almost impossible for them to repent, you’re self-righteous. You’re not on God’s side. You are not a vehicle for the shrewd grace of God.” 

— Timothy Keller 

Get a Nathan.
Be a Nathan. 

The assurance of pardon

Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” 
Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die.” 

Jesus died so that “we Davids” could live.

New You, New Relationships - Part Three