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1 | OUR STORIES SHAPE US

Sex is connected to a much bigger story.

2 | OUR CULTURAL SEX STORY

The cultural sex story goes something like this:

Humankind: Man is an animal.

Body: The body is accidental.

Sex: Sex is for pleasure.

Love: Love is a feeling or desire.

Marriage: Marriage is a construct.

Life: Life is for happiness.

Sex has been disconnected from:

  • family and childbearing
  • marriage
  • male / female relationships
  • love, emotion, and relational commitment
  • people

OUR FREEDOM STORY:

The more limits we subtract the more freedom we have.

“...the modern concept of freedom is absolute negative freedom, the absence of any constraint. The fewer limits or boundaries I have on my desires, choices, and actions, it would seem that the freer I am.”


— TIMOTHY KELLER

Sex has become isolating, dehumanizing, self-gratifying, and painful.

3 | THE JESUS STORY

When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Humankind: Man is created in the image of God. 

Sex: Sex is for intimacy, procreation, and oneness. 

Love: Love is self-giving.

Marriage: Marriage is a covenant.

Life: Life has eternal significance.

“The announcement of the law reminds us that we inhabit not “nature,” but creation, fashioned by a Creator, and that there is a certain grain to the universe—grooves and tracks and norms that are a part of the fabric of the world. And all of creation flourishes best when our communities and relationships run with the grain of those grooves.”


— JAMES K. A. SMITH

The biblical view page2image57503744of sex is intimate, honoring, self-giving, and healing.

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