February 25, 2021

“Porn is a victimless crime”

PORN IS THE ENEMY OF INTIMACY


Is porn a victimless crime? Culture has been exploring what is acceptable sexually since… well, forever. The truth is, everyone draws the line sexually somewhere. So, where do you draw the line? Is pornography acceptable?

In this episode of Spirit In Motion, Church on the Move Lead Pastor Whit George and Kids Pastor Adam Bush explore the statement, “Porn is a victimless crime.” We like to call a statement like that a true lie. There’s a hint of truth to it, but ultimately the idea has resulted in a misunderstood, broken concept… a true lie.

“Sex is for pleasure.”

Whit is extremely vulnerable in this week’s episode. He shares details about his past struggle with pornography to help the listener visualize the long-term effects of using pornography. He says, “if you only think about sex from the standpoint of pleasure, then it becomes a self-centered activity. It’s all about you. That’s really what happens with porn and masturbation. It’s a way to physically physiologically train yourself that your needs, your pleasure comes first.” It’s no wonder that porn and pride go together. It’s no wonder that porn and greed, porn and lust, all of these things happen together because it’s all about feeding a selfish desire.

Pornography is the enemy of intimacy.

The end game of sex is intimacy. The problem with pornography is that it destroys your capacity for intimacy. Think about it, is there any less intimate sex than porn and masturbation? There’s literally no one else there. So there’s no real investment that has to be made. You don’t need to know the name of any of the people involved, and they don’t even need to know that you exist.

So, who is the victim of porn?

The short answer is: You. There are a lot of pornography users, Christian or not, who would say pornography hasn’t benefited their lives. The individual pornography user suffers from pride, selfishness, and addiction. But beyond that, anyone who loves the user also suffers because porn destroys the user’s capacity for intimacy and real connection.

“But is pornography use really hurting me?” Porn is forming in you a more selfish desire. Pornography doesn’t just affect one private, secret part of your life. It is shaping every part of our life around your own selfish desires. In this episode, Whit says, “to think that I can contain pornography use in a little compartment of my life and it not bleed out into the other parts of who I am, is a mistake. I think you’re fooling yourself if you think that’s possible.”

Struggling with Pornography?

If you’re struggling with pornography, take a step. Text “OVER IT” to 23101 for a pastor from Whit and Adam’s church to connect with you. They’ll help you get connected to a community of people facing this challenge together.

In this episode, Whit and Adam talk about Whit sharing his story at their church, Church on the Move. You can hear his story here, Intimacy over Pornography from Church on the Move.

more episodes on porn

• Life In Motion: Porn is the Problem pt. 1
• Life In Motion: Porn is the Problem pt. 2
• Blog: Intimacy Over Porn by Blaine Bartel

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