In today’s world, navigating our relationships—whether in dating, marriage, family, or community—can feel like walking a tightrope. The constant noise from media, culture, and societal expectations makes it hard to discern what’s truly beneficial and aligned with our faith.

So how do we approach these sensitive topics within a faith community?

Women and Aging

One of the most overlooked yet critical conversations in the church is the experience of women going through menopause. This natural stage of life can bring about significant physical, emotional, and relational changes, yet it is often shrouded in silence or viewed as taboo.

As a community, we must create safe spaces where women can share their experiences, receive support, and be encouraged in this season. Menopause is not just a medical issue; it’s a relational and spiritual one as well, affecting how women view themselves and their roles in their families and communities.

Raising Kids in a Media-Saturated World

Parenting in the digital age comes with its own set of challenges. One of the most pressing concerns is when—and if—to introduce children to social media. Many experts agree that delaying social media until at least the age of 14 allows for the development of critical thinking and skepticism, which are necessary tools for navigating the complex world of online content.

Children under 14 often lack the ability to critically evaluate what they see online, making them vulnerable to misinformation, harmful content, and unhealthy comparisons.

As parents, it’s our responsibility to foster environments where our kids can grow in wisdom and discernment, teaching them how to engage with media thoughtfully and with a clear understanding of their identity in Christ.

Unrealistic Expectations: Romance Novels and Real-Life Love

Another subtle but significant influence on relationships is the media we consume—particularly romance novels. While there’s nothing inherently wrong with enjoying a good love story, it’s important to recognize how these narratives can create unrealistic expectations for real-life relationships.

Romance novels often paint an idealized picture of love, where every conflict is resolved in the end, and the characters’ happiness hinges on finding “the one.”

In reality, relationships require work, compromise, and a commitment to growth. When we allow these fictional stories to shape our expectations, we may find ourselves dissatisfied with the beautiful, admittedly imperfect, relationships God has placed in our lives.

Talking About Sex in the Church

The Christian message surrounding sex often centers on waiting until marriage. While this is a vital teaching, there is a significant gap in what comes next—how to foster a healthy sexual relationship within marriage. Many couples enter marriage with little to no guidance on this topic, leading to confusion, frustration, and unmet expectations.

The church has a responsibility to bridge this gap by offering resources, education, and open discussions on what healthy intimacy looks like within a godly marriage. By doing so, we can help couples build strong, fulfilling relationships that honor God and each other.

When to Involve Community in Conversations on Intimacy and Marriage

Marriage is a sacred bond, but it’s not one meant to be navigated in isolation. There are times when involving trusted members of our community in conversations about intimacy and marriage is not only wise but necessary. The challenge lies in knowing when to open up and to whom.

Scripture encourages us to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and this includes the challenges we face in marriage. However, this doesn’t mean airing every detail to just anyone. Instead, it involves discerning when we need help, prayer, or counsel and seeking out those who are equipped to provide it.

Opening up these conversations can be uncomfortable, but it’s often in these vulnerable moments that we find the greatest support and encouragement.

It’s important to remember that protecting the sanctity of the marital bedroom doesn’t mean shutting out the community entirely. There’s a balance to be struck between maintaining privacy and seeking the help that God provides through others.

Healing and Expectations in Marriage: What Are You Bringing Into Your Relationship?

Every person enters marriage with a set of expectations—some realistic, others not. These expectations are often shaped by past experiences, media portrayals, and societal norms. If left unexamined, they can lead to disappointment and conflict.

Healing in marriage begins with understanding and addressing these expectations. It involves recognizing the wounds we bring into the relationship and allowing God to work in those areas. As we do, we create space for growth, healing, and a deeper connection with our spouse.

Fostering Open Conversations

To navigate these complex issues, we must work toward creating environments in both our homes and churches where difficult topics can be discussed openly. Whether it’s talking to our kids about sex, discussing the realities of marriage with newlyweds, or supporting those going through menopause, these conversations are vital for the health and well-being of our community.

Our homes and churches should be places where people feel safe to ask questions, share struggles, and seek guidance.

This doesn’t happen overnight—it requires intentional effort, humility, and a commitment to living out the gospel in every aspect of our lives.

Will you join us?