February 22, 2022

Building a Community You Can Rely On

How do you build a community you can rely on? Everyone wants (and needs) a strong network of support, but actually finding the people who will stick by your side through the best of times and the worst can be hard. These deep and lasting relationships can only be built with focus and intentionality.

Unfortunately, life-giving friendships almost never just fall into our laps. (But that would be nice, right?) Maybe you are at the starting line of cultivating community: you don’t have the community you desire but you are ready to seek out those relationships. Or maybe you do have a lot of close relationships but want to be more intentional about strengthening them.

Let’s talk about some essential steps to a strong and healthy community.

1. Seek out social situations

It might sound obvious, but you can’t cultivate relationships with people if you’re never around them.

Self-isolating can be a natural response to discomfort or anxiety, but if you are never around other people, you can’t foster new relationships or maintain current ones.

How to cultivate community.

2. Be vulnerable.

Vulnerability is an essential ingredient to a close, deep, and authentic community. But it can be scary! Being vulnerable opens us up to hurt, and nobody wants to get hurt.

3. Foster joy.

When someone walks in the room, do they automatically know that you’re are happy to see them?

4. Be the kind of friend you would want to have.

Ultimately, be the kind of friend that you want. It’s that simple.

Think about specific things you value in relationships and then be intentional about practicing those things toward others. To have good friends, you have to be a good friend.

Your intentionality will go a long way.

Cultivating a community takes work. You may have to go outside of your comfort zone to find relational connections, or maybe do some internal work to foster self-awareness and empathy. It can feel overwhelming, scary, and defeating. Strong and healthy relationships take work. But we promise it is so worth it. Why? Because God designed us for relationships:

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” Hebrews 10:24-25

If you’re looking for a community, we would love to help you find it.
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Check out our podcast on making friends: HELP! I don’t have any friends