We’ve all heard it before: words have power. The way we speak to one another can build bridges or erect walls. But, let’s be honest, how often do we really think before we speak? We’re busy, distracted, and often caught up in our own perspectives.
It’s easy to overlook how our words might impact the person on the receiving end—especially when that person is our spouse. We don’t always consider their communication style or the emotional lens through which they hear our words. And even more rarely do we think about how we can invite Jesus into the heart of our conversations.
In this episode, we dive into practical strategies for improving communication in your marriage. We’ll explore how to speak in a way that your spouse can truly understand, and why it’s crucial to stay curious in your conversations. Curiosity keeps the dialogue open, allowing us to move past surface-level exchanges and into deeper, more meaningful connections.
It’s natural to want to jump straight into trying to change how you talk to each other. After all, isn’t that where the friction usually happens? While changing your speech patterns might bring about quick, noticeable results, if the deeper issues within your heart remain unaddressed, old habits will inevitably resurface. Scripture reminds us that our words are a reflection of what’s in our hearts. If our hearts are filled with frustration, bitterness, or unmet expectations, that will seep into our conversations, no matter how hard we try to mask it.
So, how do we invite Jesus into our communication? It starts with humility. We need to recognize that we can’t change our hearts on our own; only Jesus can do that. When we surrender our need to be right, our desire to win arguments, or our fear of being misunderstood, we make room for Him to work. This doesn’t mean we avoid difficult conversations or shy away from speaking truth, but it does mean we approach those conversations with grace, love, and a willingness to listen.
Think about the last time you and your spouse had a disagreement. What was the root issue? Was it truly about who forgot to take out the trash, or was it about feeling unappreciated or overwhelmed? Often, what we argue about on the surface isn’t what’s really going on beneath. By staying curious and asking questions like, “What’s really bothering you?” or “How can I support you better right now?” we open the door to understanding and intimacy.
Remember, communication is not just about exchanging information—it’s about connection. It’s about creating a space where both of you feel safe to express your thoughts, fears, and desires without judgment. It’s about fostering a partnership where you’re both on the same team, working together to strengthen your marriage.
So, let’s talk about it! Whether you’ve been married for one year or twenty, there’s always room to grow in how we communicate with our spouses. Join us as we unpack what it means to speak in a way that not only makes sense to your partner but also honors God. Because when Jesus is at the center of our conversations, our words can transform from weapons of division into tools of healing and unity.
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